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"One of my breasts is growing quickly and the other is not. Do I have a problem?"
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In young women, breasts don't necessarily grow at the same rate. Try to be patient until you are about 16 years old to see whether there really is a lack of growth in one breast. Even in many full-grown adults, breast size is slightly different. If you feel that there is a big difference in breast size, talk to your doctor or healthcare provider. Most differences in breast size are considered normal.
"I am 14 and small chested. Is there something I can do to make my breasts bigger?"
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There isn't much you can do, short of surgery. Surgery would not be recommended for a 14-year old. The creams and other products that are advertised do not work. You are better off spending your money on a really good bra. Try to accept that everyone is different and there is nothing wrong with small breasts.
"At what age should girls begin to do breast self-exams?"
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Breast self-exams are one of the best ways to discover breast cancer early. It’s important for a young woman to be familiar with the feel of her own breasts. This makes finding a dangerous lump easier. You are wise to start doing breast self-examinations once a month in your late teenage years. Examine your breasts at the same time every month. The best time is right after your period ends. Most often, when a breast lump is found in a young woman under age 23, it is not cancer. Many times, lumpiness in breasts is just from normal glands.
"At what age should girls begin to do breast self-exams?"
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Breast self-exams are one of the best ways to discover breast cancer early. It’s important for a young woman to be familiar with the feel of her own breasts. This makes finding a dangerous lump easier. You are wise to start doing breast self-examinations once a month in your late teenage years. Examine your breasts at the same time every month. The best time is right after your period ends. Most often, when a breast lump is found in a young woman under age 23, it is not cancer. Many times, lumpiness in breasts is just from normal glands.
"I'm 17 years old and 5’ tall. Is there a chance I will get taller?"
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The height that you achieve depends on several factors: 1) The genes you inherit from your parents; 2) The age you enter puberty (when you start to develop sexually); 3) the age you have your first period (if you’re a girl); and 3) your general health. If you have a chronic disease, for example, this will affect your height. Most young women achieve their full height within 12 to 18 months after their first period. Most young men tend to stop growing at the end of puberty when they begin to shave regularly.
"I'm 17 years old and 5’ tall. Is there a chance I will get taller?"
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The height that you achieve depends on several factors: 1) The genes you inherit from your parents; 2) The age you enter puberty (when you start to develop sexually); 3) the age you have your first period (if you’re a girl); and 3) your general health. If you have a chronic disease, for example, this will affect your height. Most young women achieve their full height within 12 to 18 months after their first period. Most young men tend to stop growing at the end of puberty when they begin to shave regularly.
"I'm an 18-year-old male who is trying to grow taller. Does skipping rope and playing basketball help? If not, could you please give me advice on ways to increase my height? I'm around 5' 6"."
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There is very little that can be done to help people grow taller. In special cases, for truly small people who do not seem to grow, doctors may prescribe growth hormones. For the large majority of shorter people, this is not the case. For the most part, your height is based on your genes. The best way to reach your true height potential is to eat right and exercise.
"I'm an 18-year-old male who is trying to grow taller. Does skipping rope and playing basketball help? If not, could you please give me advice on ways to increase my height? I'm around 5' 6"."
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There is very little that can be done to help people grow taller. In special cases, for truly small people who do not seem to grow, doctors may prescribe growth hormones. For the large majority of shorter people, this is not the case. For the most part, your height is based on your genes. The best way to reach your true height potential is to eat right and exercise.
"I am a 12-year-old male and I’ve been having some leaking from my nipples. It makes my undershirts sticky. Is something wrong with me?"
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This is not very common, but it does sometimes happen to boys during puberty (the time when you start to develop sexually). Your chest and nipples will fill out a bit as your develop into a man. As a young man's nipples grow, they may leak fluid (discharge) that looks something like mucus. If this keeps up, you should see your doctor to be sure there is no other problem. If this discharge is the result of normal development, it should stop in a while by itself. It should not be a reason to worry.
"I am a 12-year-old male and I’ve been having some leaking from my nipples. It makes my undershirts sticky. Is something wrong with me?"
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This is not very common, but it does sometimes happen to boys during puberty (the time when you start to develop sexually). Your chest and nipples will fill out a bit as your develop into a man. As a young man's nipples grow, they may leak fluid (discharge) that looks something like mucus. If this keeps up, you should see your doctor to be sure there is no other problem. If this discharge is the result of normal development, it should stop in a while by itself. It should not be a reason to worry.
"I am a 12-year-old male and I’ve been having some leaking from my nipples. It makes my undershirts sticky. Is something wrong with me?"
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This is not very common, but it does sometimes happen to boys during puberty (the time when you start to develop sexually). Your chest and nipples will fill out a bit as your develop into a man. As a young man's nipples grow, they may leak fluid (discharge) that looks something like mucus. If this keeps up, you should see your doctor to be sure there is no other problem. If this discharge is the result of normal development, it should stop in a while by itself. It should not be a reason to worry.
"I am a 21-year-old male whose voice is still like a child's. My vocal chords are capable of producing deep speech, but it is froggy and hard for others to understand. Is something wrong?"
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If all else about you is maturing normally, then it's probably just the way your vocal chords are made. If you're very concerned about this, you might want to check with an otolaryngologist, a doctor who specializes in this area.
"I am a 21-year-old male whose voice is still like a child's. My vocal chords are capable of producing deep speech, but it is froggy and hard for others to understand. Is something wrong?"
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If all else about you is maturing normally, then it's probably just the way your vocal chords are made. If you're very concerned about this, you might want to check with an otolaryngologist, a doctor who specializes in this area.
"When I touch my testicles I can feel that one is slightly larger than the other, but they look the same. Shouldn’t they be the same size? "
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Testicles are of different sizes and usually the left one is larger than the right. It often hangs a little lower than the right side. If you can feel that one testicle is larger than the other, this is perfectly normal.
"When I touch my testicles I can feel that one is slightly larger than the other, but they look the same. Shouldn’t they be the same size? "
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Testicles are of different sizes and usually the left one is larger than the right. It often hangs a little lower than the right side. If you can feel that one testicle is larger than the other, this is perfectly normal.
"At what age does a boy's penis stop growing? "
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Boys begin puberty (the time when a child starts to develop sexually) between the ages of about 8 or 9 and 14. It takes about 4 to 6 years to complete puberty. You can tell generally when penis development is finished by the pattern of pubic hair. When the pubic hair grows up from the pubic triangle to the belly button and onto the inner thigh, genital growth is usually complete. The final length of the penis can vary a lot from one man to the next. If the penis is between 3 and 7 inches long, it is considered normal. The penis can be measured by extending it to its full length and measuring from the base to the tip.
"At what age does a boy's penis stop growing? "
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Boys begin puberty (the time when a child starts to develop sexually) between the ages of about 8 or 9 and 14. It takes about 4 to 6 years to complete puberty. You can tell generally when penis development is finished by the pattern of pubic hair. When the pubic hair grows up from the pubic triangle to the belly button and onto the inner thigh, genital growth is usually complete. The final length of the penis can vary a lot from one man to the next. If the penis is between 3 and 7 inches long, it is considered normal. The penis can be measured by extending it to its full length and measuring from the base to the tip.
"Do black men have more testosterone?"
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There is no evidence that different races or groups of men have more testosterone than others. There is some difference in levels of this hormone, however, among individual men. Testosterone is not the only thing that determines a man's sex drive. There are many other factors.
"Do black men have more testosterone?"
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There is no evidence that different races or groups of men have more testosterone than others. There is some difference in levels of this hormone, however, among individual men. Testosterone is not the only thing that determines a man's sex drive. There are many other factors.
"Does masturbating affect your health or height or that sort of thing?"
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Masturbating does not have any negative affect on health, height, or development. It does not cause any problems, mentally or physically. It is so common that it is considered a normal part of growing up for both boys and girls.
"Does masturbating affect your health or height or that sort of thing?"
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Masturbating does not have any negative affect on health, height, or development. It does not cause any problems, mentally or physically. It is so common that it is considered a normal part of growing up for both boys and girls.
"I am a girl with three problems. I have oily skin and I get pimples often. I also have darker patches of skin on my knees, elbows, neck, under my mouth, and between my eyebrows. I scrub them until they turn red but they don't go away. Lastly, I'm overweight."
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What you have described are three findings typically associated with a condition called polycystic ovarian syndrome. What that means is that you may have more male hormones in your body than the average girl. If this is the condition you have, treating your problems separately is not a good solution. Talk to your doctor or healthcare provider to have all these things looked at together. It is much better to see a doctor who specializes in what are called endocrine problems. The dark areas on your skin are not the result of dirt.
"I am a girl with three problems. I have oily skin and I get pimples often. I also have darker patches of skin on my knees, elbows, neck, under my mouth, and between my eyebrows. I scrub them until they turn red but they don't go away. Lastly, I'm overweight."
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What you have described are three findings typically associated with a condition called polycystic ovarian syndrome. What that means is that you may have more male hormones in your body than the average girl. If this is the condition you have, treating your problems separately is not a good solution. Talk to your doctor or healthcare provider to have all these things looked at together. It is much better to see a doctor who specializes in what are called endocrine problems. The dark areas on your skin are not the result of dirt.
"I am a girl with three problems. I have oily skin and I get pimples often. I also have darker patches of skin on my knees, elbows, neck, under my mouth, and between my eyebrows. I scrub them until they turn red but they don't go away. Lastly, I'm overweight."
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What you have described are three findings typically associated with a condition called polycystic ovarian syndrome. What that means is that you may have more male hormones in your body than the average girl. If this is the condition you have, treating your problems separately is not a good solution. Talk to your doctor or healthcare provider to have all these things looked at together. It is much better to see a doctor who specializes in what are called endocrine problems. The dark areas on your skin are not the result of dirt.
"What does it mean when there is blood in your urine?"
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It could mean that you have a bladder infection. Or, if you are taking certain medications, the side effects could include having some blood in your urine. You might even have a problem in your urethra, the tube from the bladder to the outside. It could be caused by injury or trauma following sexual relations. If you have blood in your urine, you should see your doctor or healthcare provider.
"If my boyfriend and I are having sex only with each other, can we get an STD?"
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If the world had only two people in it, the answer would be easy. But when you begin a relationship, you have no idea about the other person’s sexual history, unless you ask. If you have only had sex with EACH OTHER and no one else, ever, you are not at great risk of getting an STD. However, if your partner has had partners before you, you are indirectly having sex with all the people he had sex with before you.
"If my boyfriend and I are having sex only with each other, can we get an STD?"
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If the world had only two people in it, the answer would be easy. But when you begin a relationship, you have no idea about the other person’s sexual history, unless you ask. If you have only had sex with EACH OTHER and no one else, ever, you are not at great risk of getting an STD. However, if your partner has had partners before you, you are indirectly having sex with all the people he had sex with before you.
"Can I get an STD if I've never had sexual contact with anyone?"
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You can get a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex, manual sex (using your hands), anal sex, or intercourse. It is important to remember that if there is drug use, such as needle sharing, you can be exposed to HIV/AIDS or hepatitis. These diseases can be caught through dirty needles, without ever having sex. However, if you are not sexually active at all, or not a drug user, you should have little worry about STDs.
"Can I get an STD if I've never had sexual contact with anyone?"
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You can get a sexually transmitted disease from oral sex, manual sex (using your hands), anal sex, or intercourse. It is important to remember that if there is drug use, such as needle sharing, you can be exposed to HIV/AIDS or hepatitis. These diseases can be caught through dirty needles, without ever having sex. However, if you are not sexually active at all, or not a drug user, you should have little worry about STDs.
"Can I get chlamydia through French kissing? "
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You cannot get sexually transmitted chlamydia through French kissing. A different form of chlamydia can be transmitted, however, just as pneumonia would be.
"Can I get chlamydia through French kissing? "
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You cannot get sexually transmitted chlamydia through French kissing. A different form of chlamydia can be transmitted, however, just as pneumonia would be.
"Is oral sex really considered sex? Can I get a disease from it?"
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Many teens are so focused on intercourse and whether or not they are “technically” virgins, they don’t realize that other behaviors are really considered sex acts, too. These acts can put them at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. Certainly, STDs like gonorrhea and genital herpes can be caught through oral sex. Using a latex condom or a dental dam for oral sex will help reduce the risk. Gonorrhea was among the first, if not the earliest, STD to be treated with an antibiotic. Over the years, however, the disease has become resistant to certain drugs. In other words, drugs that once worked, don’t work any more. Gonorrhea is the second most common STD reported, with nearly 360,000 cases in the year 2000. If you develop a strain of gonorrhea that cannot be treated, you can end up with a chronic case that can affect your chances of having children — whether you’re a guy or a girl. Many STDs can hurt your chances of having children later in life.
"Is oral sex really considered sex? Can I get a disease from it?"
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Many teens are so focused on intercourse and whether or not they are “technically” virgins, they don’t realize that other behaviors are really considered sex acts, too. These acts can put them at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. Certainly, STDs like gonorrhea and genital herpes can be caught through oral sex. Using a latex condom or a dental dam for oral sex will help reduce the risk. Gonorrhea was among the first, if not the earliest, STD to be treated with an antibiotic. Over the years, however, the disease has become resistant to certain drugs. In other words, drugs that once worked, don’t work any more. Gonorrhea is the second most common STD reported, with nearly 360,000 cases in the year 2000. If you develop a strain of gonorrhea that cannot be treated, you can end up with a chronic case that can affect your chances of having children — whether you’re a guy or a girl. Many STDs can hurt your chances of having children later in life.
"Is oral sex really considered sex? Can I get a disease from it?"
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Many teens are so focused on intercourse and whether or not they are “technically” virgins, they don’t realize that other behaviors are really considered sex acts, too. These acts can put them at risk for sexually transmitted diseases. Certainly, STDs like gonorrhea and genital herpes can be caught through oral sex. Using a latex condom or a dental dam for oral sex will help reduce the risk. Gonorrhea was among the first, if not the earliest, STD to be treated with an antibiotic. Over the years, however, the disease has become resistant to certain drugs. In other words, drugs that once worked, don’t work any more. Gonorrhea is the second most common STD reported, with nearly 360,000 cases in the year 2000. If you develop a strain of gonorrhea that cannot be treated, you can end up with a chronic case that can affect your chances of having children — whether you’re a guy or a girl. Many STDs can hurt your chances of having children later in life.
"How easily is HPV spread? My sister has it and we share clothes, soap, etc. Can I get it that way?"
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HPV, which stands for human papillomavirus, is considered a sexually transmitted infection. On a rare occasion, it can be transmitted at birth from mother to child. In general, it cannot be easily transmitted except by skin-to-skin genital contact. In THAT way, it’s very easy to get. Studies show that 30 to 50% of teens who’ve had sex have HPV. It is VERY common. The virus can cause warts on the outside or within the vagina. It can also cause abnormal Pap smears. Complications of HPV include the increased risk of AIDS and cancer of the cervix. HPV is one STD that is not necessarily prevented by condom use.
"How easily is HPV spread? My sister has it and we share clothes, soap, etc. Can I get it that way?"
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HPV, which stands for human papillomavirus, is considered a sexually transmitted infection. On a rare occasion, it can be transmitted at birth from mother to child. In general, it cannot be easily transmitted except by skin-to-skin genital contact. In THAT way, it’s very easy to get. Studies show that 30 to 50% of teens who’ve had sex have HPV. It is VERY common. The virus can cause warts on the outside or within the vagina. It can also cause abnormal Pap smears. Complications of HPV include the increased risk of AIDS and cancer of the cervix. HPV is one STD that is not necessarily prevented by condom use.
"Does HIV/AIDS show up in a blood test taken for a school physical even though they are not testing for it?"
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No, it does not. You must give specific permission to have an HIV/AIDS test done. Regular blood tests do not look for HIV. The test for HIV is a special one.
"How can you recognize herpes, and do you need a prescription from the doctor to get the medicine? Are there any herpes medicines you can get without a prescription? "
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Herpes is a virus that can cause sores on the lips, mouth, and genital area. The sores usually begin as a tingling or itching feeling. In a day or so, the area turns into small blisters. The blisters break down into tender sores before they go away. If the sores keep coming back, they usually appear at the same spot. Even though they may hurt, they are usually less painful than the first time they appeared. There is no cure for herpes. The medicine used to treat it only helps shorten the length of time that the sores are present. The medicine can also be used to prevent the sores from coming back in someone who gets bouts of the disease often. The medicine that treats herpes is only available by prescription.
"How can you recognize herpes, and do you need a prescription from the doctor to get the medicine? Are there any herpes medicines you can get without a prescription? "
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Herpes is a virus that can cause sores on the lips, mouth, and genital area. The sores usually begin as a tingling or itching feeling. In a day or so, the area turns into small blisters. The blisters break down into tender sores before they go away. If the sores keep coming back, they usually appear at the same spot. Even though they may hurt, they are usually less painful than the first time they appeared. There is no cure for herpes. The medicine used to treat it only helps shorten the length of time that the sores are present. The medicine can also be used to prevent the sores from coming back in someone who gets bouts of the disease often. The medicine that treats herpes is only available by prescription.
"Is it possible to buy medicines for vaginal discharge without a prescription? If so, what are they?"
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Some amount of vaginal discharge is normal. The amount and type of it can vary a lot from woman to woman. It also varies at different times during a woman’s cycle. Birth control pills and pregnancy can also affect the amount of discharge a woman has. There is no reason to treat normal discharge.
Vaginal discharge is considered abnormal if it is yellowish or greenish in color, thick, foul smelling, or very plentiful. Abnormal discharge often includes symptoms such as itching, soreness, or irritation. Many things can cause abnormal discharge. If you are having any of the problems described here, you may have a sexually transmitted disease or a vaginal infection. Some vaginal infections, such as “yeast” infections, are very common. There are non-prescription medications such as Monistat and Vagistat available to treat them. However, unless you have yeast infections often, and know just what to expect, it is impossible to know what is causing the discharge. If you use a non-prescription m
"Is it possible to buy medicines for vaginal discharge without a prescription? If so, what are they?"
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Some amount of vaginal discharge is normal. The amount and type of it can vary a lot from woman to woman. It also varies at different times during a woman’s cycle. Birth control pills and pregnancy can also affect the amount of discharge a woman has. There is no reason to treat normal discharge.
Vaginal discharge is considered abnormal if it is yellowish or greenish in color, thick, foul smelling, or very plentiful. Abnormal discharge often includes symptoms such as itching, soreness, or irritation. Many things can cause abnormal discharge. If you are having any of the problems described here, you may have a sexually transmitted disease or a vaginal infection. Some vaginal infections, such as “yeast” infections, are very common. There are non-prescription medications such as Monistat and Vagistat available to treat them. However, unless you have yeast infections often, and know just what to expect, it is impossible to know what is causing the discharge. If you use a non-prescription m
"I think I have pubic lice. Can you tell me how I might have gotten them and what medicines I need? "
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Pubic lice are contracted from another person, usually an intimate partner. Occasionally you can catch them from an infested person's sheets, towels, or clothes. You can purchase products for lice treatment without a prescription, such as Rid and Nix.
Ask the pharmacist where to look and be sure to follow the directions carefully. You must also wash your clothes, towels, and bedding in very hot water.
If you think you have pubic lice, the best advice is to see your doctor or healthcare provider. According to the National Institutes of Health, pubic lice are best treated with a prescription wash such as Elimite or Kwell.
For more information on the treatment of pubic lice, visit Medline Plus at
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000841.htm#Treatment
"I think I have pubic lice. Can you tell me how I might have gotten them and what medicines I need? "
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Pubic lice are contracted from another person, usually an intimate partner. Occasionally you can catch them from an infested person's sheets, towels, or clothes. You can purchase products for lice treatment without a prescription, such as Rid and Nix.
Ask the pharmacist where to look and be sure to follow the directions carefully. You must also wash your clothes, towels, and bedding in very hot water.
If you think you have pubic lice, the best advice is to see your doctor or healthcare provider. According to the National Institutes of Health, pubic lice are best treated with a prescription wash such as Elimite or Kwell.
For more information on the treatment of pubic lice, visit Medline Plus at
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/000841.htm#Treatment
"I want to go to this party where I know there will be drinking. I just want to try it. I have a friend who is also going. She promised she would not let me do something stupid. Should I go?"
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Here’s an important question: Will your friend be drinking? If she will, she may not be able to take care of herself, much less take care of you. If you’re both drinking, you could both do something stupid or dangerous. Another question to ask is this: Will there be an adult nearby? You may not want adults there, but adults can be helpful if there is a problem. Your parents may ask you if there will be adults around, because they want to know you will be safe. Also, how will you get home? You should have a designated driver who will NOT be drinking. Never ride with someone who has been drinking. Some girls have a system where one friend promises not to drink so she can keep an eye on her friends. With all this in mind, be aware that under-age drinking is illegal, and if you get caught, you could get into a lot of trouble.
"I want to go to this party where I know there will be drinking. I just want to try it. I have a friend who is also going. She promised she would not let me do something stupid. Should I go?"
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Here’s an important question: Will your friend be drinking? If she will, she may not be able to take care of herself, much less take care of you. If you’re both drinking, you could both do something stupid or dangerous. Another question to ask is this: Will there be an adult nearby? You may not want adults there, but adults can be helpful if there is a problem. Your parents may ask you if there will be adults around, because they want to know you will be safe. Also, how will you get home? You should have a designated driver who will NOT be drinking. Never ride with someone who has been drinking. Some girls have a system where one friend promises not to drink so she can keep an eye on her friends. With all this in mind, be aware that under-age drinking is illegal, and if you get caught, you could get into a lot of trouble.
"What is the chance of getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease when you are partying, like after the prom, and you’re drunk or on drugs?"
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The risks are high. Every year after parties and proms, doctors see girls who have had unprotected sex and now have STDs. They see girls who are now pregnant. All teenagers should be aware of the availability of emergency contraception. Prescription medications are available that will prevent pregnancy if taken as soon as possible — within 72 hours — after intercourse. Most young people are aware that condoms reduce the risk of STDs and should always be used. I encourage girls that are choosing to be sexually active to make themselves a promise: "No condoms, no sex!”
"What is the chance of getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease when you are partying, like after the prom, and you’re drunk or on drugs?"
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The risks are high. Every year after parties and proms, doctors see girls who have had unprotected sex and now have STDs. They see girls who are now pregnant. All teenagers should be aware of the availability of emergency contraception. Prescription medications are available that will prevent pregnancy if taken as soon as possible — within 72 hours — after intercourse. Most young people are aware that condoms reduce the risk of STDs and should always be used. I encourage girls that are choosing to be sexually active to make themselves a promise: "No condoms, no sex!”
"What is the chance of getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease when you are partying, like after the prom, and you’re drunk or on drugs?"
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The risks are high. Every year after parties and proms, doctors see girls who have had unprotected sex and now have STDs. They see girls who are now pregnant. All teenagers should be aware of the availability of emergency contraception. Prescription medications are available that will prevent pregnancy if taken as soon as possible — within 72 hours — after intercourse. Most young people are aware that condoms reduce the risk of STDs and should always be used. I encourage girls that are choosing to be sexually active to make themselves a promise: "No condoms, no sex!”
"What is the chance of getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease when you are partying, like after the prom, and you’re drunk or on drugs?"
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The risks are high. Every year after parties and proms, doctors see girls who have had unprotected sex and now have STDs. They see girls who are now pregnant. All teenagers should be aware of the availability of emergency contraception. Prescription medications are available that will prevent pregnancy if taken as soon as possible — within 72 hours — after intercourse. Most young people are aware that condoms reduce the risk of STDs and should always be used. I encourage girls that are choosing to be sexually active to make themselves a promise: "No condoms, no sex!”
"What is the chance of getting pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease when you are partying, like after the prom, and you’re drunk or on drugs?"
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The risks are high. Every year after parties and proms, doctors see girls who have had unprotected sex and now have STDs. They see girls who are now pregnant. All teenagers should be aware of the availability of emergency contraception. Prescription medications are available that will prevent pregnancy if taken as soon as possible — within 72 hours — after intercourse. Most young people are aware that condoms reduce the risk of STDs and should always be used. I encourage girls that are choosing to be sexually active to make themselves a promise: "No condoms, no sex!”
"Can you get pregnant from the small bit of fluid that comes out of the penis before ejaculation?"
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Yes, you can. If you are using a condom to prevent getting pregnant, always place the condom on the penis before it comes into contact with the vagina. Sperm is present in the fluid that comes out before ejaculation. This is why withdrawal (removing the penis from the vagina before ejaculation) does not work well as means of birth control.
"Can you get pregnant from the small bit of fluid that comes out of the penis before ejaculation?"
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Yes, you can. If you are using a condom to prevent getting pregnant, always place the condom on the penis before it comes into contact with the vagina. Sperm is present in the fluid that comes out before ejaculation. This is why withdrawal (removing the penis from the vagina before ejaculation) does not work well as means of birth control.
"Can you get pregnant from the small bit of fluid that comes out of the penis before ejaculation?"
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Yes, you can. If you are using a condom to prevent getting pregnant, always place the condom on the penis before it comes into contact with the vagina. Sperm is present in the fluid that comes out before ejaculation. This is why withdrawal (removing the penis from the vagina before ejaculation) does not work well as means of birth control.
"If I need it, where could I get the “morning after” pill?"
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You can get emergency contraception or “the morning after” pill through your healthcare provider or gynecologist. You can also get it from a Planned Parenthood office in your area. If you need the morning after pill, it means you probably also need to speak with your healthcare provider about methods of preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. You also can call 1-888-NOT-2-LATE (1-888-668-2528). This service will help you find a provider of emergency contraception in your area.
"If I need it, where could I get the “morning after” pill?"
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You can get emergency contraception or “the morning after” pill through your healthcare provider or gynecologist. You can also get it from a Planned Parenthood office in your area. If you need the morning after pill, it means you probably also need to speak with your healthcare provider about methods of preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. You also can call 1-888-NOT-2-LATE (1-888-668-2528). This service will help you find a provider of emergency contraception in your area.
"Is the “morning after” pill the same as RU 486?"
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No, RU 486 has not been approved for emergency contraception. Emergency contraception pills are similar to birth control pills but taken in a different dose. For more information click here. (link to question 26 above).
"Is the “morning after” pill the same as RU 486?"
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No, RU 486 has not been approved for emergency contraception. Emergency contraception pills are similar to birth control pills but taken in a different dose. For more information click here. (link to question 26 above).
" I recently had intercourse with my boyfriend. After we stopped, he thought that the condom might have slipped off. I don't know what I would do if I got pregnant! Where do I go to get checked out without anyone knowing who I am or letting my parents know? "
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First, it is important to stay calm. Accidents happen; try not to blame yourself or your boyfriend too much. Try to remember as clearly as possible when the first day of your last period was. Then count the number of days until the condom slipped. If it is anywhere from 10 to18 days after the beginning of your last period, your chances of pregnancy are higher. The best advice is to wait for about three weeks. Then buy a home pregnancy test at the drug store, follow the directions carefully, and check the result. If it is negative, wait another week and test again. If it’s still negative, you can be pretty sure that you are not pregnant. For medical help, try your local Planned Parenthood clinic. They can do a pregnancy test for you and check for sexually transmitted diseases. They will give you good care and respect your privacy.
" I recently had intercourse with my boyfriend. After we stopped, he thought that the condom might have slipped off. I don't know what I would do if I got pregnant! Where do I go to get checked out without anyone knowing who I am or letting my parents know? "
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First, it is important to stay calm. Accidents happen; try not to blame yourself or your boyfriend too much. Try to remember as clearly as possible when the first day of your last period was. Then count the number of days until the condom slipped. If it is anywhere from 10 to18 days after the beginning of your last period, your chances of pregnancy are higher. The best advice is to wait for about three weeks. Then buy a home pregnancy test at the drug store, follow the directions carefully, and check the result. If it is negative, wait another week and test again. If it’s still negative, you can be pretty sure that you are not pregnant. For medical help, try your local Planned Parenthood clinic. They can do a pregnancy test for you and check for sexually transmitted diseases. They will give you good care and respect your privacy.
"If I have my period right now is there any possibility that I could be pregnant?"
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Over 99% of women who are having a period are not pregnant. There is only a tiny chance you could be. There are some women who actually have periods throughout pregnancy. There are more women who have a period during the first few weeks of pregnancy. Chances are, however, if you have your period, you are not pregnant.
"I have been on my period for 10 days. My cycle has never been this long. I started the pill about 22 days ago. Could I be pregnant?"
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It is not likely that you are pregnant, although you cannot be 100% certain. It is much more likely that you are having a common side effect of birth control pills, called “breakthrough bleeding.” Breakthrough bleeding often happens during the first 2 to 3 months after beginning the pill. It usually goes away by the third pack of pills. Keep taking your pills and call the doctor or clinic that prescribed them. Tell them what is going on. Please remember: It is important to try to take your pill every day at the same time and to start the next package of pills as soon as the previous pack is finished.
"I have been on my period for 10 days. My cycle has never been this long. I started the pill about 22 days ago. Could I be pregnant?"
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It is not likely that you are pregnant, although you cannot be 100% certain. It is much more likely that you are having a common side effect of birth control pills, called “breakthrough bleeding.” Breakthrough bleeding often happens during the first 2 to 3 months after beginning the pill. It usually goes away by the third pack of pills. Keep taking your pills and call the doctor or clinic that prescribed them. Tell them what is going on. Please remember: It is important to try to take your pill every day at the same time and to start the next package of pills as soon as the previous pack is finished.
"Can you get your first menstrual period earlier if you are heavier? "
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On average, girls get their first menstrual period between ages 12 and 13, but it can vary quite a bit. Some girls simply develop faster than others and may get their periods as young as age 9. Sometimes it happens earlier in girls who are heavier. But other things can make menstruation start earlier, too, such as family history. If a girl's mother started at a younger age, the girl may start her period at a younger age, too. Girls who are very underweight sometimes start their periods later. A certain amount of body fat is necessary for everyone to be healthy and for girls to get their periods.
"Can you get your first menstrual period earlier if you are heavier? "
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On average, girls get their first menstrual period between ages 12 and 13, but it can vary quite a bit. Some girls simply develop faster than others and may get their periods as young as age 9. Sometimes it happens earlier in girls who are heavier. But other things can make menstruation start earlier, too, such as family history. If a girl's mother started at a younger age, the girl may start her period at a younger age, too. Girls who are very underweight sometimes start their periods later. A certain amount of body fat is necessary for everyone to be healthy and for girls to get their periods.
"Why is it important to be a normal weight and not overweight?"
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Being overweight can lead to major health problems, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, gall bladder disease, and irregular menstrual periods. These health problems appear in teenagers at a much higher rate now than even 10 years ago. Also, being overweight as a young person puts you at increased risk of heart disease, stroke, and arthritis, as you get older. Obesity is probably the major cause of preventable death in the United States today. Teens and young adults are at an age when many of these short- and long-term risks for disease can be prevented by a change in lifestyle. It is up to you. Act now to get yourself to a normal weight. Eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly. These changes will increase your strength, improve your health — now and in the future — and help you look your best, too!
"How do I know if I need to lose weight?"
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About 1 out of every 5 young people is overweight. You may or may not be one of them. Normal weight depends on your age, your build, and how tall you are — not just on how much you weigh. Your doctor or healthcare provider can tell you if you need to lose weight.
"We hear so much about eating right and losing weight, but so many people are overweight. Why is this?"
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Scientists and doctors who study food and health are always working to answer this question. It is a very complicated one. Some basic reasons are explained below.
• When you make a decision to lose weight, it really involves the family you live with and your friends, too. Other people who are not dieting can temp you without even knowing it. It is really important to have understanding and support from people around you to help you lose weight. And some foods (especially sweets, fried food, and junk food) can be hard to resist.
• Many teens use fast food restaurants or mall food courts as places to gather with their friends. Eating and socializing often go together. This increases the likelihood of overeating and of eating foods that are loaded with fat and calories.
• Most people are less active than they should be. It is easy to sit in front of the TV or the computer for long periods. If you don’t use enough energy to burn off the food you eat, you will end up overweight. You ca
"I am 260 pounds and the kids make fun of me in gym. I just want to go home and eat to stop crying. What can I do by myself to get started exercising? What can I do to keep from eating when I feel bad?"
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It is very hard when kids make fun of you. It’s also hard to lose weight. However, even easy exercise, such as walking every day, can be very helpful. When you feel bad and feel like eating, try taking a long brisk walk outside. It may also help to have lower calorie foods handy, like raw carrots or even popcorn without butter. This can help to satisfy your urge to eat when you are feeling bad, without packing on the calories. The body is like an engine. If you take in more fuel (food) than you need, that fuel will be stored. People store that extra fuel or energy as fat. For weight loss, it is very important that you always drink plenty of water, you exercise, and that you stay away from junk food. You may want to buy a book to help you learn how many calories are in different foods and how many calories you can burn by doing different kinds of activities. Click here for related information (link to questions 37 & 38)
"I am 260 pounds and the kids make fun of me in gym. I just want to go home and eat to stop crying. What can I do by myself to get started exercising? What can I do to keep from eating when I feel bad?"
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It is very hard when kids make fun of you. It’s also hard to lose weight. However, even easy exercise, such as walking every day, can be very helpful. When you feel bad and feel like eating, try taking a long brisk walk outside. It may also help to have lower calorie foods handy, like raw carrots or even popcorn without butter. This can help to satisfy your urge to eat when you are feeling bad, without packing on the calories. The body is like an engine. If you take in more fuel (food) than you need, that fuel will be stored. People store that extra fuel or energy as fat. For weight loss, it is very important that you always drink plenty of water, you exercise, and that you stay away from junk food. You may want to buy a book to help you learn how many calories are in different foods and how many calories you can burn by doing different kinds of activities. Click here for related information (link to questions 37 & 38)
"How quickly can I expect to lose weight?"
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It actually takes some time to lose weight and to keep it off. It is not healthy to lose weight too fast and if you do, you tend to put it back on more quickly. At the beginning of a diet and exercise program, you may lose 4 or 5 pounds in a few days. After that, weight loss normally slows down as your body gets used to eating less. As a general rule, a healthy amount of weight loss is around 5 to 7 pounds per month.
"What are the reasons that might prevent me from changing my eating and exercise behavior so that I might lose weight?"
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Perhaps the main reason that prevents a person from changing is that he or she is not really motivated to lose weight. It’s easy to get down and say, " I can't do anything about it anyway." So it helps to tell yourself positive things like I can do this. Pick one thing that is pretty easy to do and do it. That will make you feel successful and help give you the confidence to go on. For example, if you say, “I will not eat dessert today,” and you stick to that, you’ll feel like you accomplished something. Then try it another day. Just take it day by day. Another trick for sticking to your weight-loss plan is to make sure you do not get too hungry. If you get too hungry, you are likely to overeat. Skipping meals is never a good idea, especially breakfast.
"Please tell me what I can do in the house to exercise? Boys in my hood make me feel bad when I try to go walking. My mother will not let me go late at night or early before school."
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Being safe when you are walking is very important. That’s probably why your mother won’t let you go out during those times.
There are many things you can do around the house for exercise, like going up and down the stairs for 10 minutes, doing jumping jacks, running in place, dancing to your favorite music, or cleaning your room and other household chores. You are using your muscles and energy to do all of those things. Even doing the dishes is a form of exercise! If you have a VCR, there are many great exercise tapes (and even some TV shows) that will help show you how to exercise at home.
"Please tell me what I can do in the house to exercise? Boys in my hood make me feel bad when I try to go walking. My mother will not let me go late at night or early before school."
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Being safe when you are walking is very important. That’s probably why your mother won’t let you go out during those times.
There are many things you can do around the house for exercise, like going up and down the stairs for 10 minutes, doing jumping jacks, running in place, dancing to your favorite music, or cleaning your room and other household chores. You are using your muscles and energy to do all of those things. Even doing the dishes is a form of exercise! If you have a VCR, there are many great exercise tapes (and even some TV shows) that will help show you how to exercise at home.
"I've heard that we inherit a certain amount of fat genes and sometimes we just can't lose all the weight we want. Is this true?"
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It is true that we cannot always lose all the weight we want. Different people have different body types and some are just naturally smaller or bigger than others. Many young women, especially, look at magazines and think they should be as thin as the models they see. That is not reality for most women in the world. Your body is part of what makes you a unique person. What’s important is that you are a healthy weight for your height, age, and individual body type.
"What are the risks or benefits of being a vegetarian? "
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Some basic benefits might be as follows:
1) It can promote health and healthy eating. Usually vegetarians eat more fruits and vegetables that other people. We should ALL eat 5 servings of fruits and vegetables day. Many people do not. Fruits and veggies are packed with vitamins and other nutrients our bodies need to work at their best.
2) It can cost less. Meat can be quite expensive.
3) Many vegetarians believe it is a benefit that no animals have to die for them to eat.
As for disadvantages:
1) You must be willing and able to give more thought to foods and snacks in order to get the right balance of nutrition.
2) You may be limited in your choices at a restaurant or in social situations.
3) If you do not replace the nutrients normally supplied by meat you may not get enough protein (which can also be found in certain plant foods). You may also not get enough of some vitamins and minerals. You may need to take vitamin supplements. If you are a vegan (someone who eats NO foods
"I'm thinking of having sex for the first time and I was just wondering if you had any tips."
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It’s wise that you are THINKING about it before you do it. It should be a decision and not something that just happens. Ask yourself: Is this the right person? The right time? Am I really ready? What if I got pregnant or my girlfriend did? Am I ready to be a parent? Do I know enough about birth control and sexually transmitted diseases? Have I thought about how I will react emotionally and how it will affect the relationship with my partner? Have I talked to my partner about STDs, birth control, and his or her past sexual history? All of these are very important questions. No one can make the decision for you. Lots of young people are curious about sex. You just don’t want to end up sorry later. You may wish to talk to an adult or a doctor, or read about the facts, to make sure you know all you should about preventing pregnancy and STDs. The best tip is to think this decision through carefully. Learn all you can.
"Some boys try to pressure girls into having sex when the girls don’t really want to. How do you handle this?"
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No person should ever be made to have any type of sexual contact. Sexual activity should always be consensual, in other words, because you both want to and you both agree to. If a girl is having sex under the age of 14 or so, there is a very good chance that she has been pressured into doing so. It is also, unfortunately, common for young women to become victims of “date rape.” Date rape is really no different than any other kind of rape. It is never okay for anyone to force you to have sex with him or her. Even someone you know or like.
When a young woman enters a relationship that could become sexual, it is very important that she tells her partner how far she is willing to go. When a girl says no or stop, she means no or stop. Young girls have to learn to say no when they mean NO! Girls should not feel bad if, even in the middle of sexual activity, they feel they want to stop. You have a right to expect your partner to respect you and your wishes.
"Do condoms really work?"
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Yes, condoms really work. However, it is important to remember that they only work if you use them correctly. Condoms are about 90% effective in preventing pregnancy and they also help protect against sexually transmitted diseases like HIV, gonorrhea, and chlamydia.
"Do condoms really work?"
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Yes, condoms really work. However, it is important to remember that they only work if you use them correctly. Condoms are about 90% effective in preventing pregnancy and they also help protect against sexually transmitted diseases like HIV, gonorrhea, and chlamydia.
"What are some problems of having sex as a teen? Many people feel that agreeing to have sex will make their partner love them. Some people feel that everyone is "doing it" and they want to see what it's all about. Advertising messages and pop artists convince teens that being sexy and having sex is what cool people do."
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Having sexual feelings is perfectly normal for teens, but a mature relationship is built on other things besides sex, including respect for yourself and for the other person's feelings. That’s where any relationship should start. You need to feel good about yourself first and be mature enough to act responsibly. That means protecting yourself and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases (including HIV), pregnancy, and emotional hurt. All of these things can be unwanted results of having sex. If you're not comfortable talking about sex and birth control with your partner, you're not ready to have sex. If you are thinking about having sex, you need to understand the facts about sexual health. The decision to have sex can affect the rest of your life.
"I’m a teenage girl and just started having sex. When should I start seeing a gynecologist?"
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Everyone who is sexually active needs to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. A gynecologist, family doctor, or other healthcare provider can do this. In addition to being checked for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), your gynecologist or healthcare provider can talk to you about how to prevent them. He or she also can discuss the different types of contraception (ways of preventing pregnancy), and help you pick the one that’s best for you. Most healthcare providers agree that you should have your first pelvic exam (to check your female organs for any problems) when you are 18 years old or when you begin to have sex. Many doctors suggest that you have a Pap test once a year as part of your pelvic exam. A Pap test checks for cancer of the cervix.
For information on pelvic exams, visit The Center for Young Women’s Heath, Children’s Hospital Boston http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/pelvicinfo.html
For information on Pap tests, visit the National Cancer Institute http://cis.n
"I’m a teenage girl and just started having sex. When should I start seeing a gynecologist?"
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Everyone who is sexually active needs to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. A gynecologist, family doctor, or other healthcare provider can do this. In addition to being checked for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), your gynecologist or healthcare provider can talk to you about how to prevent them. He or she also can discuss the different types of contraception (ways of preventing pregnancy), and help you pick the one that’s best for you. Most healthcare providers agree that you should have your first pelvic exam (to check your female organs for any problems) when you are 18 years old or when you begin to have sex. Many doctors suggest that you have a Pap test once a year as part of your pelvic exam. A Pap test checks for cancer of the cervix.
For information on pelvic exams, visit The Center for Young Women’s Heath, Children’s Hospital Boston http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/pelvicinfo.html
For information on Pap tests, visit the National Cancer Institute http://cis.n
"I’m a teenage girl and just started having sex. When should I start seeing a gynecologist?"
>> View Answer
Everyone who is sexually active needs to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. A gynecologist, family doctor, or other healthcare provider can do this. In addition to being checked for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), your gynecologist or healthcare provider can talk to you about how to prevent them. He or she also can discuss the different types of contraception (ways of preventing pregnancy), and help you pick the one that’s best for you. Most healthcare providers agree that you should have your first pelvic exam (to check your female organs for any problems) when you are 18 years old or when you begin to have sex. Many doctors suggest that you have a Pap test once a year as part of your pelvic exam. A Pap test checks for cancer of the cervix.
For information on pelvic exams, visit The Center for Young Women’s Heath, Children’s Hospital Boston http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/pelvicinfo.html
For information on Pap tests, visit the National Cancer Institute http://cis.n
"I’m a teenage girl and just started having sex. When should I start seeing a gynecologist?"
>> View Answer
Everyone who is sexually active needs to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases. A gynecologist, family doctor, or other healthcare provider can do this. In addition to being checked for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), your gynecologist or healthcare provider can talk to you about how to prevent them. He or she also can discuss the different types of contraception (ways of preventing pregnancy), and help you pick the one that’s best for you. Most healthcare providers agree that you should have your first pelvic exam (to check your female organs for any problems) when you are 18 years old or when you begin to have sex. Many doctors suggest that you have a Pap test once a year as part of your pelvic exam. A Pap test checks for cancer of the cervix.
For information on pelvic exams, visit The Center for Young Women’s Heath, Children’s Hospital Boston http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/pelvicinfo.html
For information on Pap tests, visit the National Cancer Institute http://cis.n
"I recently had sexual intercourse and have not had my first Pap test. When I do have it, will they tell my parents I had sex? Also, do I have the option of keeping it between the doctor and me? Do I have to have more Pap tests afterwards?"
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Once a woman begins to have sexual intercourse, she needs to have a yearly pelvic exam (to check her internal female organs) and begin to have Pap tests to check for cancer. At the same time, she should also be checked for sexually transmitted diseases that could be there with no symptoms. Most doctors will keep a teenage patient's sexual activity confidential (not tell her parents). This is especially true for girls older than 14. If you are concerned about your privacy, you should check with your doctor's office about it.
"I recently had sexual intercourse and have not had my first Pap test. When I do have it, will they tell my parents I had sex? Also, do I have the option of keeping it between the doctor and me? Do I have to have more Pap tests afterwards?"
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Once a woman begins to have sexual intercourse, she needs to have a yearly pelvic exam (to check her internal female organs) and begin to have Pap tests to check for cancer. At the same time, she should also be checked for sexually transmitted diseases that could be there with no symptoms. Most doctors will keep a teenage patient's sexual activity confidential (not tell her parents). This is especially true for girls older than 14. If you are concerned about your privacy, you should check with your doctor's office about it.
"I recently had sexual intercourse and have not had my first Pap test. When I do have it, will they tell my parents I had sex? Also, do I have the option of keeping it between the doctor and me? Do I have to have more Pap tests afterwards?"
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Once a woman begins to have sexual intercourse, she needs to have a yearly pelvic exam (to check her internal female organs) and begin to have Pap tests to check for cancer. At the same time, she should also be checked for sexually transmitted diseases that could be there with no symptoms. Most doctors will keep a teenage patient's sexual activity confidential (not tell her parents). This is especially true for girls older than 14. If you are concerned about your privacy, you should check with your doctor's office about it.
"My friend, who is also 16, is a swimmer and has workouts twice a day for two hours each. He has lost a lot of weight and doesn't sleep properly. Right now, he is about 150 lbs. and he is 6'2''. He sees himself as "not at his ideal weight" and even wants to drop down to 140 and gain some back only in muscle. He eats two to three meals a day but because of his extensive workouts, I am almost sure he burns all of it off. He also has tendonitis in his shoulder but refuses to treat it. More and more people, including his family and friends, are concerned about his health and everyone thinks he looks too thin and works himself too hard. Do you think this is a reason to be concerned? Do you think he might have an eating disorder? Many people express their concern to him, but he does not seem to listen. If there is something wrong, how can he be convinced of it and how can he be helped?"
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Your friend has some problems that are very worrisome. He definitely should see his doctor. Although it sounds like he has some issues with what he's eating and with his body image, there are other reasons he could be losing weight. Only his doctor can figure out what exactly is happening. If he won't listen to direct statements that he needs to see a doctor, then you need to let his parents know how concerned you are. He might get really angry with you for doing this. However, in the long run, he'll know that you cared enough to risk his friendship in order to help him.
"My friend, who is also 16, is a swimmer and has workouts twice a day for two hours each. He has lost a lot of weight and doesn't sleep properly. Right now, he is about 150 lbs. and he is 6'2''. He sees himself as "not at his ideal weight" and even wants to drop down to 140 and gain some back only in muscle. He eats two to three meals a day but because of his extensive workouts, I am almost sure he burns all of it off. He also has tendonitis in his shoulder but refuses to treat it. More and more people, including his family and friends, are concerned about his health and everyone thinks he looks too thin and works himself too hard. Do you think this is a reason to be concerned? Do you think he might have an eating disorder? Many people express their concern to him, but he does not seem to listen. If there is something wrong, how can he be convinced of it and how can he be helped?"
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Your friend has some problems that are very worrisome. He definitely should see his doctor. Although it sounds like he has some issues with what he's eating and with his body image, there are other reasons he could be losing weight. Only his doctor can figure out what exactly is happening. If he won't listen to direct statements that he needs to see a doctor, then you need to let his parents know how concerned you are. He might get really angry with you for doing this. However, in the long run, he'll know that you cared enough to risk his friendship in order to help him.
"What’s the best way for a teen to communicate with adults about health issues?"
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Whenever you communicate with anyone it should be done with respect for the other person’s opinions and feelings. That respect should go BOTH ways. Challenging each other, put-downs, raising your voices, interrupting, and angry words are the wrong ways to communicate. Sometimes, however, when a teen and an adult or parent communicate, they both get upset and stop listening to each other. They just want to get their own point across. Communication means each person gets a chance to speak. And, even more important, each person listens to the other. It can be hard!
Sometimes it’s easier to put things in terms of questions or “I feel” statements: “I feel like you are hurting your health by smoking. I feel scared by that.” Or, “ I feel like something might be wrong with me, and I feel like I want to talk to you about it.” An important thing to remember is this: The only person you have control over is you. You cannot control how an adult or anyone else will act or react. You can only contr